- Why did we set up In Memory?
- Who are In Memory?
- Who would operate the Memorial?
- Do I need to have an email address?
- Who can place a Memorial?
- How often can the Memorial be visited?
- How long will the Memorial be there?
- How much will an entry cost?
- Will you charge me any more to maintain the site?
- Who owns the copyright to pictures?
- Can I put written obituaries from newspapers or other published tributes on the page?
- What is a Tribute and how do I write one?
- How do I choose a photograph for the Memorial?
- Why are there two passwords and what's the difference between them?
- How do I pay for the Memorial?
- How do I print a Memorial?
The idea for In-Memory came about when my grand-father died last year and I was frustrated that there was no permanent memorial I could easily go to or share with my family and friends.
My generation and my parents seem to use the internet daily as part of their normal lives and it occurred to me that putting a memorial site on the internet would be a convenient way of creating a memory of my grand-dad and allow others who knew and loved him to say what they felt.
This seed of an idea was nurtured by my dad, Michael, and a friend and marketing consultant, Jack Russell, who both became enthusiastic and involved in the project - especially as they had both lost their parents many years ago and saw this as a way of remembering them and re-kindling that special relationship.
Our thanks to Beth & Chin of Loud-n-Clear.com who have made this idea a reality and to Pat Watts and colleagues of Design Works who designed the site in a most tasteful and sensitive way.
Abbie Greisman
The Company now comprises:
| Abbie Greisman | Operations Director |
| Jack Russell | Marketing Director |
| Michael Greisman | Financial Director |
| Barbara Greisman | Personnel Director |
In Memory can be contacted as follows:
| Post | PO Box 47830 London NW11 3YJ |
|---|---|
| md@in-memory.co.uk | |
| Phone | 020 8209 0179 |
Credits
| Web site by Loud-n-Clear.com | 0118 967 7693 |
| Design by Designworks | 020 7015 9103 |
| Written by SAMS | 020 8941 9949 |
| Legal advice by Rubenstein Phillips |
Who would operate the Memorial?
Often next of kin or a close relative would want to do this, but it is likely to be the person who is involved in funeral arrangements with a Funeral Director or Undertaker. We call the person who posts the Memorial a "Memorial Manager".
Do I need to have an email address?
No. Just over half the population of this country have access to a computer and have an email address, the rest do not.
We can post what you want to place on the Memorial for you if you do not have a computer so that those who do want to see the Memorial you have created can do so. If the person who authorises the Memorial has an email address it should be shown on the form together with a postal address and contact details.
How often can the Memorial be visited?
As many times as you want, anniversaries, birthdays and other special times or at any time day or night.
How long will the Memorial be there?
The Memorial will initially appear for a three month trial period. After that time, you will be invited to pay for the entry. Once payment is received, with your agreement it could be there for as long as you wish but for at least ten years (one year paid and nine years FREE).
For the first three months, your Memorial will be online for FREE. After the trial period, a one off payment of £129.50 including VAT will be charged for the for the minimum one year period, but FREE for the following nine years.
Will you charge me any more to maintain the site?
In Memory is just like any monument, once you have put it in place it stays there and doesn't cost another penny during the ten year period. If you and we agree to extend the period at the end of ten years, we can discuss what maintenance charges if any need to be provided for, and you can consider our proposal at that time. You will not be saddled with any automatic price increases and will always be in a position to choose if you wish the Memorial to continue after the ten years is over.
Who owns the copyright to pictures?
In principle if you take a picture and you have the permission of anyone in that picture to publish it on the Internet then that is OK. Pictures of your deceased loved ones need only the permission of the photographer. Commercially taken pictures require the permission of the photographer even if you paid for the pictures to be taken. For the full legal definition see the addendum in our terms and conditions. If in doubt ask us!
Can I put written obituaries from newspapers or other published tributes on the page?
No. You need the permission of the writer. Only put your own words or the words of your relatives and friends who have given you their words, written or spoken for the express purpose of appearing on the In Memory web site. Letters received about your loved ones can be put onto the page but only after permission is given by the writer of the letter. For the full legal definition on copyright see the addendum in our terms and conditions.
What is a Tribute and how do I write one?
A Tribute is simply writing down how you felt about the person who is commemorated on this web page. Don't feel it has to follow any particular style or be "correct", just say it how you feel it! You might want to write a letter to the deceased as though they were still alive, just telling them what is in your heart. You may just want to tell the world how much you loved and respected the person who has died and how they affected your life. Whatever you do, try and express yourself in way that will bring comfort to you and may help others too. The piece can be long or short, there are no rules, no-one has a right to tell you how you feel. You could simply say "John was a lovely person to work with", or you could write a thousand words, it is your choice. Or you could tell a favourite story about the deceased. In Memory is a place where the lives of the deceased can be celebrated in the hearts of contributors and visitors alike. Remember to add your name and relationship to the deceased at the end of your Tribute.
In Memory reserve the right to alter edit or delete any text which in our view may cause offence.
Sample Tributes:
Everyone loved Sarah. She was always full of fun and when you were in her house it felt like being at home. We will all miss her. Derek Jones, Cousin
Dad wasn't always there for us but we all loved him. Not everyone is perfect and he wasn't, but you couldn't ignore him. When we was in trouble Dad was there and we knew he could get things sorted. John, eldest son.
Mr. Wiltshire was a wonderful man. A strict disciplinarian at work you always knew where you were with him. He never took a day off sick as I remember and was always very supportive if any of us staff had a real problem. He tried to be tough but underneath he had a heart of gold and the old business wouldn't have survived if he hadn't done all the things he did. We will all miss him and hope that the hundreds of men and women who worked for him feel the same as we do in saying he was the very best. Doris Speller, work colleague for 30 years
How do I choose a photograph for the Memorial?
When choosing a suitable photograph make sure the face of your loved one is big enough on the photo you have chosen. A rough guide is that on any snapshot a face should be about the size of a 50 pence piece in order to reproduce well. Tiny images on old photos will almost certainly be blurry when blown up. But don't worry too much, the important thing is for you to be happy with the result.
Picture Quality Note: Choose a picture with good contrast and clear focus. An out of focus picture will always be out of focus, and a fuzzy picture always fuzzy. Photographs for uploading must be in JPEG format and should be less than 20kb in size.
In Memory reserve the right to alter edit or delete any photograph which in our view may cause offence.
Why are there two passwords and what's the difference between them?
The "Managers Password" allows only the person who created the original Memorial, and who controls the content of the page, to update the Memorial and to edit or delete any Tributes added by friends and relatives.
The "Tribute Password" is given to relatives and friends so that they can add their personal Tributes. This password does not allow the contributor to change anything on the Memorial.
How do I pay for the Memorial?
You can pay by cheque, postal order, Mastercard, Visa, Visa Delta, Visa Electron, Visa Purchasing, JCB, Solo or Switch. Secure payment can be made online via the WorldPay system or you can print off a form and post it to us.
You might want to show a Memorial to someone who does not have a computer or to keep a copy for yourself. To do so, you need to use the Print button or Print menu item on your web browser. For best results, the page should be printed out in landscape rather than portrait orientation, showing background colours and images. In Internet Explorer and some other browsers you can choose landscape orientation by going to File > Page Setup and selecting the radio button for Landscape. In Internet Explorer, you can ensure that the background is printed by choosing Tools > Internet Options then go to the Advanced tab, scroll down until you reach Printing and tick "Print background colors and images". Then print the Memorial.